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Yurt d\u0131\u015f\u0131na gelin olarak gelen her kad\u0131n\u0131n hik\u00e2yesi ayn\u0131 de\u011fildir. Kimi yeni bir \u00fclkede g\u00fczel bir hayat kurarken, kimi de ailesinden, dilinden ve al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 d\u00fcnyadan uzakta \u00e7ok a\u011f\u0131r s\u0131navlardan ge\u00e7er.<\/p>\n
Yeni bir \u00fclkeye geldi\u011finizde dili bilmiyorsan\u0131z, \u00e7evreniz yoksa ve kendi ayaklar\u0131n\u0131z \u00fczerinde duracak imk\u00e2nlara hen\u00fcz sahip de\u011filseniz hayat ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n insaf\u0131na kalabilir. Baz\u0131 kad\u0131nlar y\u0131llarca \u00f6zg\u00fcrce d\u0131\u015far\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kamadan, sevdikleriyle istedikleri zaman g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015femeden, a\u011f\u0131r sorumluluklar\u0131n alt\u0131nda sessizce ya\u015famaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Bazen hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bile anlatamam\u0131\u015f, do\u011fruyu \u00f6\u011frenebilmek i\u00e7in ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n s\u00f6yledi\u011fine g\u00fcvenmek zorunda kalm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n
D\u0131\u015far\u0131dan bak\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda \u201cyurt d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda ya\u015f\u0131yor\u201d denilerek g\u00fczel g\u00f6r\u00fcnen bir hayat\u0131n i\u00e7inde, kimsenin bilmedi\u011fi yaln\u0131zl\u0131klar olabilir. Maddi s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131, a\u011f\u0131r \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma \u015fartlar\u0131, aile bask\u0131s\u0131 ve memleket \u00f6zlemi insan\u0131n i\u00e7inde derin izler b\u0131rakabilir. En ac\u0131s\u0131 da \u00e7o\u011fu zaman insan\u0131n ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 ailesine anlatamamas\u0131 ve g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc g\u00f6r\u00fcnmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Belki de ge\u00e7mi\u015fte ya\u015fanan bu ac\u0131lar y\u00fcz\u00fcnden bug\u00fcn baz\u0131 gelinler e\u015flerinin ailelerine kar\u015f\u0131 daha mesafeli davran\u0131yor. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc i\u00e7lerinde, \u201c\u00c7ok yakla\u015f\u0131rsam \u00fcz\u00fcl\u00fcr m\u00fcy\u00fcm, ezilir miyim?\u201d korkusu ta\u015f\u0131yor olabilirler. Oysa aile olmak korkuyla de\u011fil, sevgiyle kurulmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n
O\u011flumuz varsa gelinimiz, k\u0131z\u0131m\u0131z varsa damad\u0131m\u0131z olacakt\u0131r. Kendi evlad\u0131m\u0131za g\u00f6sterdi\u011fimiz de\u011feri, onun hayat\u0131n\u0131 payla\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 insandan esirgememeliyiz. Gen\u00e7lerin yuvalar\u0131na m\u00fcdahale etmek yerine huzurlar\u0131na katk\u0131 sa\u011flamal\u0131, onlar\u0131 birbirinden uzakla\u015ft\u0131rmak yerine birbirlerine yakla\u015ft\u0131rmal\u0131y\u0131z.<\/p>\n
Hepimiz hata yapabiliriz. Fakat \u00f6z\u00fcr dilemek insan\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcltmez. Bir \u00e7ocu\u011fun, bir gelinin, bir damad\u0131n ya da bir e\u015fin kalbini k\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda, o kalbi hayattayken onarmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak gerekir.<\/p>\n
\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bu d\u00fcnya kimseye kalm\u0131yor. Geriye ne mal ne de makam kal\u0131yor; insanlar\u0131n kalbinde b\u0131rakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z iyilik ya da k\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131k kal\u0131yor.<\/p>\n
Ke\u015fke hi\u00e7bir insan\u0131n iyi niyeti, sevgisi ve \u00e7aresizli\u011fi ba\u015fkalar\u0131 taraf\u0131ndan kullan\u0131lmasa. Ke\u015fke aileler gen\u00e7lerin hayat\u0131na y\u00fck olmak yerine onlar\u0131n s\u0131\u011f\u0131naca\u011f\u0131 g\u00fcvenli bir liman olabilse.<\/p>\n
Gurbet\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \/\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 AVRUPAPRESS<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Yurt d\u0131\u015f\u0131na gelin olarak gelen her kad\u0131n\u0131n hik\u00e2yesi ayn\u0131 de\u011fildir. Kimi yeni bir \u00fclkede g\u00fczel bir hayat kurarken, kimi de ailesinden, dilinden ve al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 d\u00fcnyadan uzakta \u00e7ok a\u011f\u0131r s\u0131navlardan ge\u00e7er. Yeni bir \u00fclkeye geldi\u011finizde dili bilmiyorsan\u0131z, \u00e7evreniz yoksa ve kendi ayaklar\u0131n\u0131z \u00fczerinde duracak imk\u00e2nlara hen\u00fcz sahip de\u011filseniz hayat ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n insaf\u0131na kalabilir. Baz\u0131 kad\u0131nlar y\u0131llarca […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":36248,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[14,16,3,17,18,15,19,2,1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-36247","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-avrupa","category-belcika","category-dunya","category-ekonomi","category-kultur-sanat","category-spor","category-tanitim","category-turkiye","category-uncategorized"],"yoast_head":"\n